Our approach is always based upon respect, empowerment, and your collaboration in the treatment process. We’ll figure you out together. We’re the specialists in mental and emotional health, but you’re the expert on yourself. Here you can find more on our approach and specialties.
Florham Park Counseling is proud to introduce a new referral for parents who are interested in gaining tools and strategies to help them along in their parenting journey. If you are feeling overwhelmed while parenting, having a consult with her can help ease some of that stress.
One of the first goals I often hear when couples start counseling is: I want it to be like it was before. When we fell in love. We were like one person. All we wanted to do was be together. I don’t want her to go out by herself. She should want to be only with me.
If you want your relationship to last, you DON'T always have to be right. It's like the game of tug of war. Whoever wins, loses. The person who loses looks up at the person holding the rope and resents the winner for making them fall. Instead, try to understand your partner. Why does he or she think that? Practice looking at things between you with an open mind and heart.
Are you still in shock over the discovery that your spouse or partner has cheated on you? Feeling alone, hopeless, anxious or depressed? Thinking no one can understand what you’re going through? Come join a support group of others who do understand. Give and get coping mechanisms and a feeling of community with others in your situation.
Sexual problems at the root of it all are rarely discussed, since each partner blames the other for the problem, or they blame themselves.
When couples come in for marriage counseling, they almost
always say they’ve come because they have communication
issues. What we find is that it is usually over a complaint
someone has.
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected - an expression of longing and loss.
An official diagnosis of P.T.S.D. requires that the individual experience a major trauma, like a rape, accident or battlefield experience. However, recent research indicates that in many cases, P.T.S.D. symptoms can occur as the result of less dramatic events.
Just as a child grows from infancy to adulthood, with tasks to master and inner strength to be acquired, couples must follow a similar path.
First, there is NO correct time to "get over" your grief. The so called societal one year limit is preposterous. In former times and cultures,women obeyed the prevailing custom of wearing black until the first year was officially over. They withdrew from society and basically "died" along with the deceased. Now we have work mandates. Three days off for the death of a loved one and back to work again! Three days!!
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